Being an Introvert: The good and the bad.

The study of human behavior

Introversion, a term introduced in the 1920's by psychologist Carl Jung is a personality trait or an attitude where a person is prone to directing their energy towards themselves whether it's from deep reflective thinking, reading books or just enjoying their own company, where as extroverts directing their energy outwards with activities such as socializing, playing a team sport, risk taking etc. In the modern world today it is more desirable to be more extroverted and outgoing, this is where you have people encouraging other people to ''go get yourself noticed'' or ''let your voice be heard'' or ''show everyone what your made of'', with that said people with an introvert personality can often be misconstrued as being withdrawn and shy but actually this isn't the case at all. Introverts aren't necessarily unsociable, they are just sociable in a different way to extroverts, they prefer more low key activities involving close friends in a small group setting or deep, intimate one to one conversations with a good friend.

Introvert characteristics
These are some general characteristics someone with an introvert personality may possess, though this may not be an absolute description for every introvert but it will give you a good outline of their overall demeanour.

- Quiet
- Have a few but close friends
- Enjoy their own company
- Independent
- Internally energised
- Self Aware
- Keeps their personal life to themselves
- Don't impose themselves vigorously
- Deep/complex thinkers

Pro's of being an Introvert
Contrary to the negative connotations of an introvert personality and their psychology, there are of course advantages to being an introvert. Generally being less talkative than others introverts lend towards having good listening skills making them good at connecting and empathizing with the people they interact with because they are able to allow the other person to talk more and let them reveal more of their thoughts and feelings than they otherwise would with someone who talks just as much or a lot more, this is one of the reasons why introverts can hold deep and meaningful conversations as they are able to give the other party their full attention. Because most introverts are natural deep thinkers they can give you in depth and well thought out answers when in conversation and when faced with a difficult decision they are likely to weigh up there options logically and carefully which is why they can be effective leaders such as Bill Gates, Warren Buffet and Abraham Lincoln. Lastly introverts can be very independent because they often don't need approval and can enjoy their own company while concentrating on close relationships instead of many acquaintances which can make them quite private as people giving them an aura of mystery which can perk peoples interest.

Con's of being an Introvert
In the modern age where being an extrovert is seen as desirable and seems to open more doors especially in sales and the entertainment industry being an introvert definitely has its disadvantages. Because they are private in nature and guard their thoughts and emotions it can be difficult for them to form friendships with many people, this maybe partly because they are not as socialized as other people having not learnt the necessary skills to be a social butterfly due to being used to having their own personal space and distance. Another disadvantage is the ability to be outspoken or speak their mind, this can be in the workplace situation or in a social setting making them feeling isolated and cause them to withdraw even further than they have already. Though being introvert or enjoying your own company isn't usually the problem, it is the perception of being an introvert which can make people think it is a social deficiency to not want to be constantly around others, this in itself can itself cause people to doubt your character and perceive you differently to other people.

Usually people aren't a complete introvert or even completely extroverted, they usually are a balanced between the two depending on how they feel, how their day pans out or maybe the environment they are currently in requires them to be more one than the other. Having a mixture of both is necessary as balance is more beneficial than extremes.

The next post will be discussing the psychology of extroverts and both their advantages and disadvantages.

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  1. Hello, can you please provide the author's name as well as the date when this article was published? Thank you!

  2. In a work place both these quality are required in balanced proportion. To know more about the behavior you can consult Business Psychologist who can govern you to take right steps.

  3. "...this maybe partly because they are not as socialized as other people having not learnt the necessary skills to be a social butterfly due to being used to having their own personal space and distance."
    We have social skills. In fact, most of us have great social skills. However, it is not in our nature, our personality, to be social butterflies.
    You make it sound as though we can change, when we can't. You sound like all the other idiots who want to "fix" us when there is nothing to be fixed. I mean no disrespect, but your article is flawed and not based on psychological facts.

  4. More labeling. People are not introverted or extroverted. It changes based on the task, situation and social context. When you read about types, run the other way!